Sometimes, one simply finds themselves at a point where one just knows it’s time for a major change. Many things can trigger this. Realizing that what you have been doing up to this point is leading nowhere, or the realization that one simply can no longer tolerate the situation one is in or even finding out some information that you had no idea about can all bring about this state. That is where I find myself now. Realizing that things have to change. I have to change and adapt to a new situation. It’s certainly not a comfortable feeling, what with all the uncertainties and variables. Nevertheless, there is also a sense of excitement in the hope that what it all turns out like will be far better than what it was.
I have known many people who have had their lives completely changed by unexpected circumstances, others by finding out something they didn’t know but needed to, and still others by the seemingly sudden realization that things just couldn’t go on status quo. Most of them, the majority in fact, did quite well after the unsettling period of change and adjustment. Almost all of them say they are much happier with their lives now than before. I can only hope that will be the case with me. I’ve had a feeling change was coming for quite some time now, but now there is no questioning it. It’s already happening.
Nothing stays the same. Change can be difficult to say the least. But trying to hold on to something that simply isn’t there or isn’t working any longer can (and usually does) prove to be even more difficult and painful than making the necessary changes and learning to adjust to the new situation. I had always thought I was pretty good at accepting change, now I will find out how good I am at re-evaluating and adjusting to a change that must happen as quickly as possible. So quickly in fact that I’m uncertain of how I am going to deal with some of the issues because of the rapidity with which it must all occur.
I keep reminding myself that one cannot control much of what happens to them, but one can control how they react to it. My reactions with need to be careful and not hasty so that when all the dust clears I too can say that I am much happier with my life than I was before the change.
I realize this hasn’t been a very informative post, but this is me just trying to put my thoughts together in some semblance of coherency so that I can look back when it’s all done and see how I was dealing with it. My dad told me my grandfather used to say that, “The winds of change are always blowing”… I guess that’s pretty true, as right now they are gusting pretty strongly.
) is that the problem is clear. Back when I was in the public school system we didn’t have school shootings. We didn’t have kids committing suicide because they were bullied. We had the ability to fight back. Today, with school shootings and suicides, it seems all too clear to me that the problem is that the schools and legal system have taken away the basic right of self defense. They use fear and intimidation (police, cameras, steep fines) to force the kids to cower down and not even think about defending themselves. To be very blunt, they have given the bullies free reign. Recently a famous MMA fighter has taken up the issue of school bullying. He describes how he himself was bullied until he took up martial arts, learned to defend himself and got bigger. After that, he says, by age 14 or 15 no one could touch him. I’m glad he’s taking a stand against bullying, and if you read/listen carefully enough it becomes clear that the solution was indeed self defense, not some idiotic “Zero Tolerance” rule. He learned to defend himself, simple as that. His tormenting ordeal of being bullied ended, not because of police in the school but because the bullies feared getting their, again, um, “rear end” kicked.
